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A Player Intervention

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I was chatting with a common friend of ours, and when he told me something, I couldn't believe it. Are you really still chasing after that girl? After she invited a guy over with you there and she fucked him while you were downstairs on the couch? After you invited her out camping and she insisted on bringing out her daughter (where nothing happened)? After you attempted to sleep with her on several occasions and she shot you down every single time?

Say it ain't so. I'd expect this type of behavior from an amateur, but you? You? Seriously? I normally keep my thoughts about people to myself, but I think it's time for an intervention. You need to realize a few things that everyone knows, but won't say to you because we all respect you:

Learn To Let Go

Dog, if shit ain't progressing with a chick, then the shit ain't progressing. The night she fucked another guy while you were there, you should have been gone. Place some fucking value on yourself. If a chick isn't responding to your advances, or if she's giving you a hard time, the best thing you can do, is walk away. The harder you try, the more respect she loses for you.

Watch How You Treat Friends


Trust me, women are paying attention. They're looking at you, and watching how you treat your friends. Women will judge you based on your character. And if you don't have a sound enough character to respect those close to you, then you're more than likely not going to be a guy that they're going to want to see in a romantic fashion.

It Isn't Always Smash & Grab


You have a huge bar social circle with hook-ups everywhere, very similar to the social circle I had on campus. You don't have to "game" every single decent looking girl you see. That makes you come off as desperate. If you're a cool guy, then you're a cool guy. When women see how many people like you, they're going to want to sleep with and date you.

What do you think I did on campus? I didn't chase after those girls. My friends did all of the introducing and told these girls how much of a cool guy I was. All I had to do was lay back and let the women come to me.

Don't Hit On Your Friends Targets


Every guy sees it and has said something about it at one point in time. If the girl isn't into you, then so what? Let the guy she's interested in talk to her instead of destroying his chances by being a dick. Guess what happens if he gets the girl? He's going to introduce you to her friends, and make you getting laid much easier.

Guess what happens when I lay back and let The Peacemaker and Misha talk to girls? They introduce me to their friends and I, in turn, get a girl for myself as well. That's how it works. You're boys. You're suppose to lay back and let him do his thing, even when you aren't getting a girl at that point in time.

Stick To A Goal


You don't realize how much this is killing you, but it is. You can only fake who you are for a certain period of time before women realize that you aren't committed to achieving something in life. You don't have to have money to attract women, but you should at least have REAL goals that you're gonna stick to.

If you really want to know why you're sleeping with OK looking women, and women that are fucked in the head, the above is why. You are only sabotaging yourself. It's not enough to just initially be a cool guy. You have to be willing to walk away. You have to show a little bit of character and treat those close to you with a little respect. And you have to get your life on track and stop playing for the short term.

You don't have to put up a front around us. We can see right through it. We all have our own issues and problems, but it's up to you whether or not you want to keep fooling yourself, or actually get over your ego and do something about it.